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Readings

As in all aspects of your weddings, there are few rules. You don’t have to include readings, but if you find one that you really, really love, then it could be special.

 

Either I can read, or you might choose to give that honour to a  special guest. Preferably choose someone who is a good, confidant reader - a person who is happy to do it, as opposed to someone who is terrified! ;)

POEMS & READINGS

Have you got a biro I can borrow?
By Clive James

I carry your heart 
by E.E Cummings

Touched by an angel
by Maya Angelou

“I’d like to write your name 

On the palm of my hand, 

on the walls of the hall 

The roof of the house, 

right across the land 

So when the sun comes up tomorrow 

It’ll look to this side 

of the hard-bitten planet 

Like a big yellow button 

with your name written on it

Have you got a biro I can borrow? I’d like to write some lines 

In praise of your knee, 

and the back of your neck 

And the double-decker bus 

that brings you to me 

So when the sun comes up tomorrow It’ll shine on a world 

made richer by a sonnet 

And a half-dozen epics 

as long as the Aeneid 

Oh give me a pen and some paper Give me a chisel or a camera A piano and a box of rubber bands 

I need room for choreography And a darkroom for photography Tie the brush into my hands 

Have you got a biro I can borrow? I’d like to write your name 

From the belt of Orion 

to the share of the Plough 

The snout of the Bear 

to the belly of the Lion 

So when the sun 

goes down tomorrow 

There’ll never be a minute 

Not a moment of the night 

that hasn’t got you in it.”

May these vows and this marriage be blessed. 

May it be sweet milk, 

this marriage, like wine and halvah. 

May this marriage offer fruit and shade 

like the date palm. 

May this marriage be full of laughter, 

our every day a day in paradise. 

May this marriage be a sign of compassion, 

a seal of happiness here and hereafter. 

May this marriage have a fair face and a good name, 

an omen as welcomes the moon in a clear blue sky. 

I am out of words to describe 

how spirit mingles in this marriage.

I carry your heart with me (i carry it in 

my heart) i am never without it (anywhere 

i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done 

by only me is your doing, my darling) 

i fear 

no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet) i want 

no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true) 

and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant 

and whatever a sun will always sing is you 

here is the deepest secret nobody knows 

(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud 

and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows 

higher than soul can hope or mind can hide) 

and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart 

i carry your heart (i carry it in my heart) 

 May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements  a marriage should bring,  

and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding. 

May you always need one another – 

not so much to fill your emptiness  

as to help you to know your fullness.  

A mountain needs a valley to be complete;  

the valley does not make the mountain less,  

but more; and the valley is more a valley  

because it has a mountain towering over it.  

So let it be with you and you… 

May you have happiness,  

and may you find it making one another happy. 

May you have love, and may you find it loving one another. 

We, unaccustomed to courage exiles from delight 

live coiled in shells of loneliness until love leaves its high holy temple and comes into our sight 

to liberate us into life. 

Love arrives 

and in its train come ecstasies 

old memories of pleasure 

ancient histories of pain. 

Yet if we are bold, 

love strikes away the chains of fear from our souls. 

We are weaned from our timidity In the flush of love’s light 

we dare be brave 

And suddenly we see 

that love costs all we are 

and will ever be. 

Yet it is only love 

which sets us free.

This is everything I have to tell you about love: nothing. 

This is everything I've learned about marriage: nothing. 

Only that the world out there is complicated, 

and there are beasts in the night, and delight and pain, 

and the only thing that makes it okay, sometimes, 

is to reach out a hand in the darkness and find another hand to squeeze, and not to be alone. 

It's not the kisses, or never just the kisses: it's what they mean. Somebody's got your back. 

Somebody knows your worst self and somehow doesn't want to rescue you or send for the army to rescue them. 

It's not two broken halves becoming one. 

It's the light from a distant lighthouse bringing you both safely home because home is wherever you are both together. 

So this is everything I have to tell you about love and marriage: nothing, like a book without pages or a forest without trees. 

Because there are things you cannot know before you experience them. Because no study can prepare you for the joys or the trials. Because nobody else's love, nobody else's marriage, is like yours, and it's a road you can only learn by walking it, 

a dance you cannot be taught, 

a song that did not exist before you began, together, to sing.

And because in the darkness you will reach out a hand, not knowing for certain if someone else is even there. And your hands will meet, 

and then neither of you will ever need to be alone again. And that's all I know about love.

Everything I know About Love
by Neil Gaiman

Blessing For A Marriage
(an extract)by James Dillet Freeman

This Marriage
by Rumi

 Union

by Robert Fulghum

Everything I know About Love 
by Dolly Alderton

Look at one another and remember this moment in time.  

Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for  you have learned much from one another these past few years.  

Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and  things between you will never quite be the same. 

I know that love can be loud and jubilant…It can be dancing in the swampy mud and the pouring rain at a festival and shouting “YOU ARE AMAZING” over the band.

It’s introducing them to your colleagues at a work event and basking in pride as they make people laugh and make you look lovable just by dint of being loved by them.

It’s laughing until you wheeze.

It’s waking up in a country neither of you have been in before.

It’s skinny-dipping at dawn.

It’s walking along the street together on a Saturday night and feeling an entire city is yours.

It’s a big, beautiful, ebullient force of nature.

I also know that love is a pretty quiet thing.

It’s lying on the sofa together drinking coffee, talking about where you’re going to go that morning to drink more coffee.

It’s folding down pages of books you think they’d find interesting.

It’s hanging up their laundry when they leave the house having moronically forgotten to take it out of the washing machine.

It’s the texts: ‘Hope your day goes well’, ‘How did today go?’, ‘Thinking of you today’ and ‘Picked up loo roll’.

I know that love happens under the splendour of moon and stars and fireworks and sunsets but it also happens when you’re lying on blow-up airbeds in a childhood bedroom, sitting in the Emergency Department or in the queue for a passport, or in a traffic jam.

Love is a quiet, reassuring, relaxing, pottering, pedantic, harmonious hum of a thing; something you can easily forget is there, even though its palms are outstretched beneath you in case you fall.

SONG LYRICS & OTHER MUSICAL ARTISTS
 (THESE COULD ALSO WORK  AS WEDDING VOWS!?)

Words
by Joni Mitchell

Bob Dylan's Wedding Song

“All of me 

Loves all of you 

Love your curves and all your edges 

All your perfect imperfections 

Give your all to me 

I'll give my all to you 

You're my end and my beginning 

Even when I lose I'm winning 

'Cause I give you all of me 

And you give me all of you”

Bob Dylan's Wedding Song

He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But  if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he  admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the  most you can. 

He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but  he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him,  don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyse.  Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him  when he’s not there. 

Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but  there’s always one guy that is perfect for you. 

Bob Dylan's Wedding Song

I love you more than ever,  

more than time and more than love 

I love you more than money  

and more than the stars above 

Love you more than madness,  

more than waves upon the sea

Love you more than life itself,  

you mean that much to me 

Ever since you walked right in,  

the circle’s been complete 

I’ve said goodbye to haunted rooms and faces in the street 

To the courtyard of the jester  

which is hidden from the sun 

I love you more than ever  

and I haven’t yet begun

Bob Dylan's Wedding Song

"When the rain is blowing in your face, 

And the whole world is on your case, 

I could offer you a warm embrace 

To make you feel my love. 

When the evening shadows and the stars appear, And there is no one there to dry your tears, I could hold you for a million years 

To make you feel my love. 

I know you haven’t made your mind up yet, But I will never do you wrong. 

I’ve known it from the moment that we met, No doubt in my mind where you belong. 

I could make you happy, make your dreams come true. Nothing that I wouldn’t do. 

Go to the ends of the Earth for you, 

To make you feel my love. "

Bob Dylan's Wedding Song

When I get older losing my hair 

Many years from now 

Will you still be sending me a Valentine 

Birthday greetings bottle of wine 

If I'd been out till quarter to three 

Would you lock the door 

Will you still need me, will you still feed me 

When I'm sixty-four 

You'll be older too 

And if you say the word 

I could stay with you 

I could be handy, mending a fuse 

When your lights have gone 

You can knit a sweater by the fireside 

Sunday mornings go for a ride

Doing the garden, digging the weeds 

Who could ask for more 

Will you still need me, will you still feed me 

When I'm sixty-four 

Every summer we can rent a cottage 

In the Isle of Wight, if it's not too dear 

We shall scrimp and save 

Grandchildren on your knee 

Vera, Chuck and Dave 

Send me a postcard, drop me a line 

Stating point of view 

Indicate precisely what you mean to say 

Yours sincerely, wasting away 

Give me your answer, fill in a form 

Mine for evermore 

Will you still need me, will you still feed me 

When I'm sixty-four 

Bob Dylan's Wedding Song

We're the best partners this world's ever seen, Together as close as can be. 

Sometimes it's hard to find time in between, To tell you what you are to me. 

You are the rose of my heart, 

You are the love of my life. 

A flower not fading nor falling apart, 

If you're tired, rest your head on my arm. Rose of my heart. 

When sorrow holds you in her arms of clay, It's rain drops that fall from your eyes. 

Your smile's like the sun come to earth for a day, You brighten my blackest of skies. 

You are the rose of my heart, 

You are the love of my life. 

A flower not fading nor falling apart, 

If you're cold, let my love make you warm. Rose of my heart. 

So hard times or easy times, what do I care, There's nothing I'd change if I could. 

The tears and the laughter are things that we share, Your hand in mine makes all times good. 

You are the rose of my heart, 

You are the love of my life. 

A flower not fading nor falling apart, 

You're my harbor in life's restless storm. 

Rose of my heart.

Bob Dylan's Wedding Song

“If you want endless repetition,  see a lot of different people.  

If you want infinite variety,  

stay with one.”  

What happens when you date is you run all your best moves and tell all  your best stories — and in a way,  

that routine is a method for falling in love with yourself over and over. 

You can’t do that with a longtime mate because he knows  all that old material.  

With a long relationship, things die then are rekindled, and that shared  process of rebirth deepens the love.  

It’s hard work, though, and a lot of people run at the first sign of trouble. 

You’re with this person, and suddenly you look like an asshole to them or  they look like an asshole to you — it’s unpleasant, but if you can get  through it you get closer and you learn a way of loving that’s different  from the neurotic love  

enshrined in movies.  

It’s warmer and has more  

padding to it.”

“All Of Me”
by John Legend

“Make You Feel My Love”
by Bob Dylan

“Rose of my Heart"
by Johnny Cash

"He’s Not perfect"
by Bob Marley

“When I'm Sixty-Four”
by The Beatles

Bob Dylan's Wedding Song

QUOTES AND SHORTER WORDS

Yoko Ono

"A dream you dream alone is only a dream;  

a dream you dream together is reality." 

Dr. Seuss

“We are all a little weird and life is a little weird, and when we find someone  whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual  weirdness and call it love.” 

Virginia Woolf from Night and Day

"I see you everywhere, in the stars, in the river, to me you're everything that  exists; the reality of everything."

FROM BOOKS AND OTHER SOURCES

From ‘'The Chaos of The Stars'' 
by Kiersten White

I didn't fall in love with you. I walked into love with you, 

with my eyes wide open, 

choosing to take every step along the way. 

I do believe in fate and destiny, 

but I also believe we are only fated to do the things that we'd choose anyway. 

And I'd choose you; 

in a hundred lifetimes, 

in a hundred worlds, 

in any version of reality, 

I'd find you and I'd choose you.

From "Blue-eyed Devil"
by Lisa Kleypas

I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was  beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you  might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was  perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were  arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together. 

From "Soul Mates"
by Lang Leav

I don’t know how you are so familiar to me — or why it feels less like I am getting  to know you and more as though I am remembering who you are. How every  smile, every whisper brings me closer to the impossible conclusion that I have  known you before, I have loved you before — in another time, a different place,  some other existence.

FROM TV AND MOVIES

TV - “Sex and the City – Carrie”

"His hello was the end of her endings 

Her laugh was their first step down the aisle 

His hand would be hers to hold forever 

His forever was as simple as her smile 

He said she was what was missing 

She said instantly she knew 

She was a question to be answered 

And his answer was 'I do.'" 

—Carrie 

Movie – “Hitch”

“Never lie, steal, cheat, or drink.  

But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love.  

If you must steal, steal away from bad company.  

If you must cheat, cheat death.  

And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away.” 

“Life is not the amount of breaths you take, it’s the moments that take your  breath away.”

“So how does it happen, great love? Nobody knows… but what I can tell you is  that it happens in the blink of an eye.  

One moment you’re enjoying your life, and the next you’re wondering how you  ever lived without them.” 

Lord Of The Rings:The Fellowship of the Ring

"I would rather share one lifetime with you than face all the ages of this world  alone." —Arwen

Movie – “Sleepless in Seattle”

"It was a million tiny little things that,  

when you added them all up,  

they meant we were supposed to be together...and I knew it.  

I knew it the very first time I touched her.  

It was like coming home, only to no home I'd ever known.”